Last Sunday was love Sunday in church and as you can imagine, it was quite awesome. You should start coming to my church, lol. We had lots of issues to talk about, trust youths.
one of the issues raised was whether you could marry someone you don't love as long as you know that it's God's will for you, or if you would rather stick with chemistry whether or not God's will.
Well, I was an onlooker, trust me I am not really one who loves to speak publicly, by the way what do I know. however, I was soaking up all the opinions that were flying around and I knew I had to talk about it on my blog. (a blogger gets inspired by everyone and everything, don't blame me)

I learnt a lot though, some people wouldn't marry someone they have no chemistry with or aren't physically attracted to, while others said If it's God's will count me in, no matter no matter. All good and fine.

As an individual and more importantly as a Christian (if you're not a Christian, this might not make sense to you)
I believe in love, chemistry, physical attraction et al but trust me when placed beside God's will, those things don't stand a chance, God's will Trumps them all. I know it's probably one of the hardest things you might have do. Because God's ways are not our ways literally!

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Here's why I will go with God's will upon clear conviction, love can't sustain marriage, love fizzles away over time and when the storms of life appear I don't believe that love can carry you through it. don't you see how our celebrities keep on divorcing. I am sure there was love somewhere with the bradangelinas but time and chance happened.

God is our creator, he knows what's best for us, he's the manufacturer he knows all the details, he made the manual and expects us to follow it, if we want to have the best out of life. if he says jump, just jump.
Trouble will come in marriage any which way but when there's a conviction that God directed you to make the decision, you can rest assured that you will whether the storm.

Finally, on the issue of hearing from God,I know some people don't even know if it's possible to hear from God and some can't discern when he's the one speaking, you are on your own, better start praying now so that your dull ears can receive revival Lol.

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I have a little friend who is "hyper" friendly, she's just eight but she literally initiates conversations and friendships on a first meeting. When we first met she walked up to me and asked me "what is your name"?" "my name is ify", I replied, completely astounded at her guts, but I tried as much as I could not to show it. And that's how we became a pea in a pod.

She's a cute little angel, sweet and really friendly. Over time I have watched her talk to a couple of other people who don't find her as interesting as I do, and don't really give her the attention she gets from me and a few others. I guess she's learning more about life( sorry sweetie, that's life finally)

This makes me reflect on life generally. It’s actually impossible for everyone to like me. What one person wants me to do, another person might want me not to do. Not everyone will like me, but not everyone matters, so I shouldn’t let it bother me.


Not everyone you meet is going to like you, Don't get offended. It doesn't in any way reduce your worth. it's not going to make you richer or poorer, prettier or uglier. Some people will not see the "big deal" about you, they will see you as just another human living on earth. Learn to Deal with it.

Not everyone is going to appreciate your gifts and talent, don't waiver, keep putting in more effort. You are not the first and you sure won't be the last.

Not everyone you meet will be willing to help you. Some people will be so uninterested in the things you value the most, they might not even understand why and how you derive pleasure from the things you do. To them it might seem like a complete waste of time. It's completely normal,there are people who have been strategically positioned by God to help you until you meet these people keep calm and keep moving forward.

Not everyone you meet will encourage you, there will be people who will be so keen about the things you do like "kilode" !! While some will be so passive and indifferent like "what's your name again"? this shouldn't deter you in any way. Keep the fire burning.

As you go through life, bear in mind that not everyone belongs in your life. And when you meet people who are not necessarily relevant to your purpose, don't be bothered by the way they will to react to it. Cut them off quickly before they poison your mind and disrupt your focus.
Those who need to be in your life will come and stay and will ultimately help you become better.
P S: don't forget to appreciate them. These people don't come easy.